life in motion

This was in an email I received from Neil Strauss, author of such books as The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-Up Artists and Rules of The Game. He is brilliant, and although some may not agree with his approach to women, anybody would agree with this list.

Eleven Pick-Up Epiphanies

1. What you look like doesn’t matter. But how you present yourself
does.2. Nobody is judging you. They’re too busy worrying about what you
think of them. So instead of seeking her approval, give her yours.
Then take it away. Then give it to her again. This is called
flirting.

3. Women do actually like nice guys. They just don’t like weak
guys. So you can still be nice. But you must also be confident—in
yourself, your opinions, and your worthiness and value in the
world. In order for a woman to be with you, she needs to feel safe
with you. 4. It’s not enough to just be yourself. You must be your best self.

5. There’s a thin but important line between being horny and being
sexual. A horny man hits on a woman before she’s attracted to him.
A sexual man waits until she’s attracted to him.6. Just because you’re interacting doesn’t mean you’re attracting.
Learn to recognize the difference between politeness and interest.

7. To win the heart of a woman, you often have to be willing to
risk losing her.8. When a girl who you went on a date with in the past and who
suddenly disappeared on you calls out of the blue, it generally
means one thing - so call back right away before she finds someone
else to be with that night.

9. Always call a woman the day after sleeping with her and make her
feel good about having let go with you—even if you don’t want to
see her again or she doesn’t want to see you again. Don’t ruin her
for other guys.10. Don’t look to your friends or family for approval as you learn
the game. They may like you just the way you are, but not always
for the right reasons. With some “friends,” this is because when
you start looking better, feeling more confident, and succeeding
more than they do, you often end up reminding them of their own
inadequacies and lack of growth.

11. Finally, to quote the wisdom of Canadian hockey player Wayne
Gretzky, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” So
simply by approaching a woman and saying something, no matter how
badly you may bumble, you’ve dramatically increased your odds of
being with her.