It may be over coffee, or maybe laying in bed or on the couch late into the middle of the night.  You are immersed in an amazing conversation with the latest potential mate.  It seems completely perfect!  But beware… it could lead this potential relationship to the grave.

Most of us enjoy a good conversation.  Intelligence is something that we all typically look for in our possible significant others.  Look at any person’s dating profile, and they will be seeking it.  Ask anybody on the street and they will say that somebody the connect with intellectually is one of the most important things they are seeking.  But when it comes down to it, great conversation can land your relationship in the “doomed to hell category” if you are not smart about it.

I will explain…

Its one of those things… I want you to be pretty, but not too pretty.  I want you to be girly, but not too girly.  I want you to like sports, but not too much.  I want you to be smart, but not too smart.

You see, if there is too much intelligent conversation, and for too long, it overshadows everything else.  That amazing, steamy, fairytale kiss?  He won’t remember it.  The hot sex… yep… in his mind it never happened.  The way you looked at him?  What? You were looking at him?  All he will remember is the fact that you had a good conversation.

So there you go, girls.  Dumb it down.  That’s what they want.  Not all of them, but most of them do.  Be smart and have good conversation-but make sure that it isnt so good that it overshadows everything.  Sure, it may go against everything that we are taught about being intelligent, independent women, but its true most of the time.